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barbara
How to connect with his inner presence . . . what could I provide that would give him the feelings of safety and security in our relationship that he could be fully himself?
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November 2009 
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what a beautiful graphic here.
so how does one be safety and security? you've got me thinking :)
hmmm… safety and security are manipulative words, tho. nobody really wants to give up their freedom, they have to be tricked into it. that's not nice. give him freedom to fully be himself (not who you think he should be), the rest is up to him. <3
I view safety and security as qualities that come from within oneself … they cannot be given by another – I don't look at my being a safe and secure person for another as being manipulative; it is who I am. I am honest and want for others to be fully who they are as much as they choose to be. I also believe I am a “nice” person and that my desire to support him to be fully himself comes from our connection.
We all have to be very careful about what we want for other people. They have their own ideas and history. All we can do is fix ourself up.
We have to recognize and acknowledge another's inner presence first, just as they are, right now. The other person doesn't have to do anything.
When others see your security and inner presence, they might want more of what you have (calm and inner peace) That's up to them. They will observe you and learn.
Peace and love,
mimi
you are right, mimi; I would not even have such an intent if he has not already expressed the same desire – he wants to be fully who he is in our relationship just as I do; all we can do is be in touch with our own inner presences (?) and we will find each other.